Feelings play a crucial role in determining human behavior.
Before visiting the various Matrix pairings, review the instructions and background information below. Within each of the combinations, I explore the relationship dynamics of each type with every other type, placing an emphasis on the circle of conflict that naturally occurs between the types and how this circle can lead to relationship distress and disruption.
I present how each type can support each other to create a relationship that flourishes rather than flounders. When these three facets are adopted, it virtually guarantees that the relationship will thrive.
Guidelines To begin with, each of us is unique. No one of us expresses the range of concerns and aptitudes characterized by our type in exactly the same way.
Influences of connected types provide different flavorings to each type. For example a Type 8, the Protector, with a strong influence from its neighbor Type 7, the Epicure, will look different than a Type 8 with a strong link to its neighbor Type 9, the Mediator.
More self-mastered individuals will behave differently than those with less self-mastery. But when the pressures accompanying stress build, our type bias really comes into play and tends to dominate our perceptions and behavior.
We need to acknowledge our biases concerning the different types, especially the strongly positive and negative biases. Definitions for Each of the Type Pairings In what follows, I present the definitions regarding the relationship dynamics for each of the 45 possible combinations of Enneagram types.
These categories and their definitions form the basis of the relationship dynamics; do familiarize yourself with these. Conflicts often arise because each type has a different perception of what is needed for a satisfactory life and for the fulfillment of the three basic needs for security, connection, and autonomy.
These efforts often take the form of allegation or blame, even if subtle, and frequently have a repetitive quality.
They can result in a circle of conflict characterized by increasing intensity and distress.
Understanding and becoming aware of this cycle is a virtual key to resolving conflict constructively and compassionately. Relationship Development There are three fundamental aspects to relationship development, all of great importance. What to acknowledge 2. What to appreciate 3.
Key tasks for development In working with these key aspects of relationship development, do keep applying the steps of the Universal Growth Process [link goes here] as these underlie each of these practices.
Daily practice is the key.
Take time each day to preview the aspects you are working on and at the end of the day, review how you are doing. What to Acknowledge About Self This is about what each individual needs to take responsibility for that contributes to difficulty and distress in the relationship.
What to Appreciate About the Other This section elucidates the positive attributes and qualities each individual needs to acknowledge, appreciate, and support in the other.In psychology, stress is a feeling of strain and pressure.
Stress is a type of psychological pain. Small amounts of stress may be desired, beneficial, and even . I fee you, Carol. Despite all the love, almost eberything, I’ve give him, it’s still not enough. It’s easy for him to drop you like a piece of garbage without regard your feelings.
The Cycle of Tantrums, Rage, and Meltdowns in Children and Youth with Asperger Syndrome, High-Functioning Autism, and Related Disabilities.
Professor Brenda Smith Myles. Social and Emotional Learning Social and Emotional Learning is about helping students develop a range of skills they need for school and life.
Evolutionary Psychology of Emotions “Show me a guy who has feelings, and I'll show you a sucker.” Frank Sinatra, Singer and Movie Star Emotional Wisdom cognitive programs that coordinate thoughts and behaviors in response to specific adaptive challenges.
We describe each of these approaches before turning to a brief. Ok, let’s get down to business. Which careers and jobs will best fit your traits as a Highly Sensitive Person? I wrote a blog post about what I think is the best job for Highly Sensitive People–working for yourself–but that solution won’t work for everyone..
Let’s talk about opportunities for those who need to work in a somewhat traditional workplace.